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I found lessons in every heart break. After the darkness fades, and you start to mental accept what you can’t change, things get brighter. You start to realize what is meant for you and is what is not. Furthermore, you realize you didn’t love yourself enough to identify the red flags for what they were and leave at that moment. Being soft and not being able to say “no” or “I am worth more!” leaves us stuck struggle with our own thought and hurting ourselves even more.

I think it’s a form of abuse to yourself, to mentally know something isn’t good for you but still continue to try. As if things will get better. You have to learn to accept people at their face value and move accordingly. Otherwise you will be ran over like road kill or worse, left for dead while they continue to hurt you in the same ways. The biggest lesson for me is learning about my self worth and saying No!

Every decision I make, I take ownership for. I wake up everyday and realize, today is on me. What I do today is on me. The people I choose to be around is on me. The relationships I put myself in have been on me. This all led up to it all being on my shoulders. Sure I’d like someone to take the load off but somehow, I give off this energy that I got it all under control, so I have no choice but to handle it. No complaint while in the moment …I just put my head up, instead of down and handle it.

Of course I shouldn’t have to do it all alone but if I don’t no one will do it or I am considered the angry black women when I demand or ask for the same things over and over and over again…outside of business. It’s really baffles me that my feelings and emotions are considered anger but when it comes to getting it done and seeing the results, it’s somehow inspiring and powerful to watch me do it alone. It’s draining and overwhelming. I’m not carrying no one else on my back but my children, I’ve learned a life long lesson. All these hidden agendas, secrets and non sense I put up with while I was working to make me is done. I enjoy my silence and being alone because I KNOW, it’s all on me!

The heart of an empath works harder than feeling…

The thoughts entering my concise aren’t mine,

It’s hard to decipher who needs healing

As I drive myself to the point of insane

Trying understand why I can feel what is unheard or seen.

I quiet myself to hear my own thoughts

Observe my surroundings so that I can seek out who sought,

To vibe so strongly on the same frequency.

The job of an empath is to make that person seen!

Make them aware, you’re not alone and with comfort

If you ever need a ear to confess

Confide, I am open

Strong enough to heal myself as I watch you

An empath that demands nothing more than self love from you.

Speaking from experience, it never goes away but it gets a little easier to live each day.

One day at a time, one minute at a time, heal yourself and drop off the pain.

It’s okay to outgrow people and move forward, the world is made the way. The universe is designed that way to keep evolving and changing. We are not made to just settle and think it’s okay. You’re not supposed to ensure you happiness in the hands of someone else. Self love is knowing what’s best for you and also doing what is best for you.

I’ve been caught up in so many relationships and friendships, where I feel used and end up hurt. I end up blaming myself but I didn’t stop the pattern. I tend to pick people who do just enough to be around me to fulfill their agenda. I wish to be around people who will elevate me.

I can’t stand being around people who talk and don’t do anything anymore. I can’t be around people who don’t want nothing anymore. I can’t have that energy on me. I got to a point I stay away from people. Their interest aren’t mine, and it’s okay to stop coming around and focus on you. This is part of loving yourself. This is part of your growth and believing in you. This is your journey!

-Hearttress, Love More, Hate Less!

Growth and Comfort do not Coexist.

_Ginni Rommety

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You asked me “”why you”?

It stuck to me, like my skin, like the melanin that flowing freely

and the pain I endure and relive.

Like the doubt and rejection that could stop me dead in my tracks.

I tried to answer but words can not really handle the explanation of that.

Why YOU!?

You’re my constant, my love letter and fantasy my mind fights and tries to dissolve.

You’re the one who wins, or is the idea of you that has flawed?

Is it like something I never had, or are you just a combination of everything I am into?

The level of intimacy goes beyond sexual encounters.

I could have cried when you asked me, but resilience holds too much power.

Why you…

I dont understand myself sometimes, and I study the feeling.

I think I am married to your power,

like you’re something that is in my fingertips, steps, and actions,

my conscious just won’t allow me to let go.

Like I love deep and hard, that’s the heart in me.

Yet, still head strong and stubborn,

Like I can move on with life, and see you happy with someone else and still be there for you.

Like you’re family or like I have an obligation to you.

Like if your water nurtured me, I’d grow weak.

Kind of gives me Hancock vibes,

Like we will never end, but we don’t have a foundation to live on through.

It’s your conversation, upbringing, and heart.

I remember everything when it comes to you.

I can feel how good of a person you truly are.

You blind my pain,

like life doesn’t exist and I have to snap out of it.

Like a good book or movie, I’m in it with you.

I can be in the worst predicament and smile when I think of your face.

My amazing grace in my smile, you know it, when I look at you.

You’re the muse to my art, and the power in my pleasure.

You’re my last chance to feel true love, I’ve chosen…

I’m Hearttress the heart collector.

I love to love and you’re my ultimate forever,

when I say it, I mean it. I’m that honest with myself.

You’re my why, I can live through content with life, no matter what you do. I’ll with time, forgive and we’ll grow from it…better!

I love you…

-Hearttress, from the book Poetically Loving Me, coming soon!